I agree with you.I think Edward had it harder.Don't get me wrong,I liked Jacob,too.Just hear me out.
Edward had to lie to Bella and watch her crumble and break down when she truly believed he didn't love her anymore.Then she's running after him,heartbroken.He can hear her footsteps.But he had to run away from her,battling with himself the whole time to go and tell her he was sorry and he didn't mean it.After that,he had to live for six months without the reason for his existence.When he was thinking about heading back to Forks just to check on her and see if she would forgive him and take him back,Rosalie tells him Bella just died.Can you imagine the heartbreak that must have made him feel? Especially that he left for she can be safe.He felt so guilty that she committed suicide because he left her that he tried to commit suicide himself.
Now,Jacob did have it hard.I can't deny that.When he saw Bella again after Edward dumped her,he saw her eyes were filled with despair and pain.And then he's falling in love with her,and he knows it,too.At the movie theater when they're watching Crosshairs,he's holding his hand out just in case Bella wanted to hold his hand.And then he's laughing at the gore in the movie in an attempt to show Bella that he can be tough and not weak.And then he tried to talk Bella into him,to get her interested.And then he turns into a werewolf and is told he was forced into this because of the vampires.And his best friend was dating a vampire.And then he had to watch Bella beg to take her back and say she might love him back if he started hanging out with her again.Especially when he tried to tell her he was a werewolf and feared that she wouldn't want to be his friend anymore.Then he watched her choose the person who left her torn and bleeding over him.And then she goes back to Edward like nothing ever happened!
But I still think Edward had it worse because if Aro wasn't fond of Carlisle and wanted him and Alice part of The Volturi Guard,Aro could have said yes to Edward's request.So if Bella didn't ram into him at the right time,he could have hurted her even more and he was probably thinking that the whole flight home.
i think that jacob had it harder because he new she was the one thing he would never have. As much as bella wanted to be friends with him i think that she was slowly falling for him, but she knew that edward was who she wanted and will always want so it made it difficult for her to be with jacob and there for made it worse on him knowing this.
Edward. Could you leave the love of your existence, even for their own good? That took an extraordinary amount of courage, knowing he would be facing agony without her but loving her too much to stay. Total torment. Then thinking she was dead? Anyone who has ever lost someone they loved to the permanence of death can relate to how agonizing that was for him.
i think edward had it harder because at least Jake got to be with Bella (well up til the end). but i feel worse for Jacob being jilted when he's so young and he was so close. but it was all for the better.
Edward had it harder in new moon , because he had to force himself to leave Bella and then when he heard she was dead it just sent himto another level.
But in Eclipse Jacob felt it because he fell in love with Bella and had to loose her when Edward came bsck on the picture,.
i think edward had it harder..He had to leave his true love because he thought it was better for her..Then after he leaves he thinks she dies and believes that...Tries to kill himself then finds out she is still alive when she comes to save him...To me that is alot to go through..
Edward was never forced to leave Bela, he made the choice of leaving her behind unprotected, and he suffered from the consequences of that decision later on as painful as it was. As for Jacob, I'd say he had it less harder because he knew Bella was never going to be' his from the very beginning and he carried on falling for her.