Sincerely, Doc B
As always you hit on many excellent points. Your point : "But the man was still his father and Carlisle still respected him and loved him." I think that you are surely right. For example: Edward was worried that he would let Carlisle and his family down if he killed Bella. But he never for a moment thought that Carlisle wouldn't forgive him. The fact that Carlisle and his (biologic) father were sometimes at odds doesn't mean that Carlisle didn't forgive him for his short comings and love him.
As Carlisle taught us one of our jobs is fully forgive all for their human failures. Just as each of us needs to be forgiven. Your point: "Because it (THe Cullen Cross) is something his father carved himself for their parish." I couldn't agree more. I think that the fact that he made it with his own hands helped Carlisle treasure it even more. And you make a very important point that I hadn't thought about, Carlisle's MOTHER HAD DIED.
That has to be an important key in understanding the relationship between the two. My guess is that Carlisle's mother (like him) was a very sensitive person. And her loss must have made his bond with his father, just that much more important.
* Six of the ten commandments are included in the Egyptian book of the dead which predated the Decalogue. The commandments that were not included in the Egyptian Book, were in reference to respecting the sabbath and worshiping one God.
You make a VERY POWERFUL point. "MORALS!" Morals profoundly helped Carlisle turn into the fine man that he became. Morals (as you know) are simply a set of "rules" that we live by.* Let's look at an example of how our actions are affected by our morals. In the "Twilight Saga" Edward stops his car, and goes to get Bella's door. But Bella opens her own door, before he can open it for her. Edward is confused. What did Bella's action mean? Why wouldn't she allow him to demonstrate the respect that he has for her, by letting him open her door? (Edward lives by an antiquated social moral code.
(A code which Bella eventually comes to embrace) Edward had seen his biologic father open doors for ladies a thousand times. If Edward had asked him why he did that, his father would have said: "We do it because it is one of the ways that we show respect to women."
I am certain that Carlisle's father taught him to abide by a very rigid moral code. (A moral code, as you know, is simply a list of rules we live by) I don't think that Carlisle would have been able to overcome the temptations he faced, in his personal battle against his vampiric desires, with out that rigid moral code. Here is another example: Think about two different TV interviews (one of a typical 18 year old American, and the other of a typical 18 year old American soldier) you will invariably notice a significant difference.
The young soldier invariable shows respect to the interviewer. And that is because armies have learned that respect is a key to creating an an effective warrior. And after his transformation Carlisle was literally fighting for his soul.
Thank you for sharing with us. Your friend, Doc B
*All people live by a moral code. Example: In the Judeo-Christian faith there is a moral injunction against murder. Commandment: "Thou shall not kill"