Gear great points,
Your final one "I think their situation is a classic example of how most typical fathers feel about their daughters' boyfriends." Is sooo insightful.
Professor Jung (the father of modern psychology) gave a wonderful lecture on that subject "The breaking of the Electra bond, the love bond that develops between a girl and her father" He said that it is instinctual (in the hard wiring's) for normal fathers to teach their daughters certain things.
Job one: How to be loved; He said the young female child learns that it is natural and proper form males to love and adore them BECAUSE their fathers adored them. A good example of how males "fall in love" is expressed by Darcy's love for Elizabeth Bennett. As Darcy said that, his loving her, made no sense (of course it did, Elizabeth was adorable) but I (Edward) adore you anyway. Now Jung would say; "But Elizabeth could accept his love, because her father adored her. (Elizabeth's father was a psychologic projection of the good Reverend Austen..Who adored Jane)
A father's second job is to teach his daughter how to be respected.Which was valued 1000 times more in Edwards 1917 than it is today.
In the process a father and daughter develop a strong love bond. So the moment Bella's told her father "Be good..He's important!" Before Charlie could circle his head once he knew that he might be loosing his Bella. And that as Jung would say that is what causes the love hate feelings that fathers have for their daughters boyfriends. A good dad of course like Charlie tries to suppress his negative feelings and focus on the positive aspects. BS to CS: "Relax dad Edward is old fashioned. I am a virgin" CS to CS "Starting to like this guy.' (PP)
Professor Jung would say..KB you hit the nail right on the head!
Thanks for sharing with us,